THE DISAPPOINTED DAUGHTER
Your father might as well be a stranger you met in the street. It's a chilly relationship between the pair of you, and you are quite aware of this. You are distanced from each other and there is no strong tie. You probably need to grieve for the father you can't have and get on with finding the real you. You were, at least, given a certain amount of independence when you were growing up, and you have been able to get on with life despite the father-shaped gap. Yet this has also made you slightly distant with other people, especially men, who you always fear will disappoint you. You feel persistent regret at the fact that you have missed the chance to get to know your father. You started off with a negative image of him (perhaps encouraged by what your mother has said) but ended up blaming yourself, coming to the conclusion that you weren't worth his love. You think to yourself: if my own father's not even interested in me, what do I expect other men to see in me? Inside there is a little girl who doesn't understand where it all went wrong. Your father has failed to do his job and he doesn't know how to show his feelings towards you. Try and talk to him. Better late than never — it's still possible to form a bond. If you have already tried to contact him and have had no response try to build your self-esteem and remind yourself that not all men are like him. Plenty of them would relish the chance to get to know you… and love you too.
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